Nature Heals

“Mum makes me think a lot about strength, and about how we keep going.”

Words by Kristen Gardner

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4 min read


Growing Coastal

Sorrento Beach is where I grew up, and when I think about what connected me to the outdoors in the first place, it always comes back to that. Later on, I lived in City Beach, a bit further down the coast, but always on the Western Australian coast. 

I feel very lucky about that. We were literally probably 100 meters from the beach. There was the highway, and we were the first house. My surf club was just down the road, so I’d come and go, and in the 80s, it was all very free and easy. I’d just leave a note and say I’d be back at 5, then head off to play with friends down there.

A lot of my childhood was just unstructured play. Playing in a spare block with a swing, going down to the beach with foamies, just mucking around. We didn’t have phones and technology back then, and we grew up in an area where there were lots of kids the same age, so we just had heaps of fun. I have an older sister who’s 18 months older, very polar opposite to me. She’s the bookworm. And I have a half-brother who’s 15 years younger. He’s sporty, like myself. Mum was very outdoorsy herself, and we just grew up doing the things that she loved. Luckily we were on the beach, so rain, hail or shine we’d be down there through winter.


Sacrifice to Strive

When I was 10, my mum and dad got divorced, and things changed a lot. For Mum to raise my sister and me, things didn’t end up all that well. She ended up with next to nothing, but she kept us in the same street. We sold the nice house and moved into a little house at the top of the street. My mum was a school teacher, and she put us through private school on a teacher’s salary, renovated the house, and kept us where we were and how we were. Even from a young age, I could see what she was giving up. My mum raised us to allow my personality and lifestyle to shine.

I think that is why I still look at her the way I do now. Since Mum’s stroke, she’s still motivated, and we have a good relationship, so we make fun when it’s hard. But I have to be really hard on her. She’ll ring me and say, ‘Guess what I did?’ She’s proud and self-driven as well, so even when she doesn’t feel like it, I say, ‘Well, just go and do this.’  I’m not one to say, just rest. I’m like, ‘No Mum, it’s not an option, you’ve just got to go and do that.’ And she will keep pushing herself.

Mum’s had a couple of bleeds from the high blood pressure, so that was what the bleed was caused by during the procedure. She’s sort of 80 percent of herself. She lives independently. She’s not paralyzed at all. But it’s really stuffed up her cognition and processing things. She’ll do some swimming and walk home. She’s been rescued by the neighbors a few times to get home, but she’s in physio and art class, and she always was very social, so she probably does about three quarters of what she used to. She’s had, on average, four falls every couple of months, which sets her back so bad. Last time she fainted in the kitchen flat on her back on the hard floor and cracked her skull. Then that’s two weeks of just laying around doing nothing, and she loses strength and weight.


Run and Ride

I hated running growing up. I was a beach sprinter with surf clubs and athletics, always 100 meters, 200 meters. I hated long distance. I did the school cross-country because I was fit enough in swimming, but that was it. Then I went to America for 11 years. Being a physiotherapist, I travelled around and had a couple of practices there. I got into long-distance running when I was there because we needed to be outside in winter, and I hated being in the gym. So I started running in the snow and found it quite peaceful and cathartic, and to my surprise, I learned I could run.

I started mountain biking in Texas initially. That was in 1997, because there was no ocean. Then I knew, I was made for that. When I came back to Perth, we didn’t have too many trails. There were sort of unsanctioned trails here. Then adventure racing had started. It was sort of starting to sow its seed, and all my old surf club friends were doing adventure racing and off-road tri. I just said, oh my goodness. I love it. I was never good at traditional tri. The off-road stuff suits me.

It gives me more than just exercise. When I train, I try to get everything out of my head, and that’s my moment. I don’t take my phone, I don’t listen to music, and I’m like, just go for a walk or just start for a jog, and a hundred percent of the time I come back and that stress is completely gone. It just happens. It evolves.


Keep Going

Mum makes me think a lot about strength, and about how we keep going. It probably also makes me more aware now that I’m 50, not old yet, but on that cusp of wanting to keep enjoying what my husband Paul and I built. 

It kind of makes me a bit emotional because we’re lucky. We’re so lucky. Gratitude is amazing. What’s going on in the world right now, we’re just so lucky to be here. I never have taken credit. It’s probably more important now to recognize that. It’s a happy thing. I get overwhelmed at how bad things are sometimes, and for us to keep doing and living how we are is so fortunate.

That’s probably why I feel so strongly about people knowing they don’t have to be a tip-top athlete, high-performance, or even able to perform in all three disciplines to belong in this kind of life. There is still room for you to enjoy the outdoors in more than just getting into your car and getting out. The training side of this takes you places you may not normally go in an everyday week. You search for different places to go and do activities, and with different people. I think it’s a big part of why we choose to have recreation activities in our lives. It’s very much for our mental health and physical health, but there’s also a part there that you have no control over, and that’s the healing that happens when you’re out in nature.


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Kristen Gardner

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